Not Your Issue…

        Last year was a very stressful work year for me because I had to re-evaluate some of my relationships and friendships at work.  This was due to people whom I thought to be friends showing their true colors and demonstrating that they weren't whom they appeared to be.  I don't want to spend too much time getting into it all because, frankly, the way that they proved to be hypocrites is not as important as the fact that they ultimately proved to be untrustworthy.  The important part is that I actually went through a period of time where I blamed myself and wondered if I had been the problem by being too outspoken or not reserving my thoughts on certain topics.     That brings us to the real reason why I am writing this post which is to teach all of you never to doubt yourself.  It is now a full year later and none of those people even matter at all in my life.  On the other hand, they still continue to be the same miserable and deceptive people that they have always been.  … [Read more...]

Juggling, Sacrificing, and Parenting

        My husband is starting a second job on Saturday. He is a licensed exterminator by trade and he received an offer to work part-time on Saturdays doing just that. I wasn't sure how I felt about this when he first brought it up because we haven't been struggling financially, thank goodness, and it caught me by surprise. His reasons for wanting to do this are that he wants us to pay down our debt faster and become debt free. Obviously, I couldn't argue with those reasons because I would love to be completely debt-free and to waste our hard earned money on more enjoyable things than paying bills.     I'm still conflicted over the whole thing because I feel that it is time that will take him away from the family.  After all, I work full time all week during the day and he works full time during the week at night so the weekend is really the best time for us to spend time together and catch up on family time.  Against my better judgment, I am trying to be supportive because … [Read more...]

Breathing Space

        Today I realized that I have never had my own space.  It happened just when I was sitting down looking through some of my mail in the livingroom.  My husband had just walked into the room and I had just changed the channel on the television to a reality show that I often like to watch.  He immediately frowned but did not ask me to change the channel even though it was obvious that he did not want to watch what I had put on.  At that very moment I began to think about the fact that I have never had my own space to watch whatever I wanted to watch or to do whatever I wanted to do.     Growing up, I always shared a bedroom with my younger sister since we were both girls out of my parents' three children.  Even back then, I can recall always having to compromise about when we were going to turn the lights on or off or what we were going to watch on our television.  Sometimes we agreed and things went smoothly and other times we argued and only one of us ended up getting … [Read more...]

Burdened Children

         Lately I have been noticing that a lot of my students have been arriving to school late in the morning or just being absent from school more often than they regularly are.  Upon further investigation and discussion with them when they do come to school, I have become aware of what I consider to be a growing problem.  It seems that a lot of my students arrive late because they have to take their younger siblings to school in the morning.  Additionally, sometimes they are absent because they have to stay home and take care of their younger brothers and sisters while their parents run errands, attend doctor's appointments, or go to work.     I completely understand that life has a way of creating unexpected situations and that emergencies and extenuating circumstances sometimes warrant extreme measures.  However, from a parent's perspective, this is really irresponsible behavior.  I'm totally against imposing the responsibility of caring for younger siblings on older … [Read more...]

Parental Compromising

        This evening, Hubby and I disagreed upon a parenting moment.  We established the rule, a long time ago, that our boys would not be allowed to play video games on school nights.  Now, correct me if I'm wrong, but isn't Sunday considered a school night since kids have to go to school on Monday morning?  This is what I have always thought but my husband deviated from the game plan tonight.  You see, he played video games all afternoon in order to unwind before going to work this evening so he took up all of the kids' time to play during the day.     I'm not sure if he felt guilty about the fact that the kids did not get to play or if he was just being stubborn but, all of a sudden I see him setting up the boys to play the Playstation 3 at 7:00 p.m.  Immediately, I put my foot down and stated that they boys were not allowed to play because they have school tomorrow and that the rule stands that there are no video games on school nights.  My husband and I immediately began … [Read more...]