Cut Me Some Slack!

        Last week, I forgot to call my sister for her birthday.  It's not that I forgot her birthday because I was actually thinking about her all day at work.  The thing is that sometimes life has a funny way of happening and detouring our previous plans.  That is exactly what happened that evening...     It was last Thursday and I worked all day and was actually worried throughout the workday because my 5 year old's asthma kicked in right on schedule with the season and weather changes.  I kept him home that day because his chest was pretty tight and I didn't want to chance sending him to school and him having an attack without his father or I being around.  Luckily, I am able to do this and not worry because my husband works nights and he is home during the day if I ever have to keep the kids home because they are sick.     That afternoon, I called my husband from the car when I got home and asked him to bring the boys out to me so I could take them to the doctor.  I … [Read more...]

Not Your Issue…

        Last year was a very stressful work year for me because I had to re-evaluate some of my relationships and friendships at work.  This was due to people whom I thought to be friends showing their true colors and demonstrating that they weren't whom they appeared to be.  I don't want to spend too much time getting into it all because, frankly, the way that they proved to be hypocrites is not as important as the fact that they ultimately proved to be untrustworthy.  The important part is that I actually went through a period of time where I blamed myself and wondered if I had been the problem by being too outspoken or not reserving my thoughts on certain topics.     That brings us to the real reason why I am writing this post which is to teach all of you never to doubt yourself.  It is now a full year later and none of those people even matter at all in my life.  On the other hand, they still continue to be the same miserable and deceptive people that they have always been.  … [Read more...]

The MIL Strikes Again…

    Those of you who are regular readers of this blog know that I do not have the best relationship with my Mother In Law.  Actually, to say that we have a bad relationship is an understatement, the woman hates me.  To fully understand the history between us, you would have to perform a search of this blog and go back in the archives to read about all the wonderful things that she has done to me over the years.     My problem is that I am a glutton for punishment because, when it comes to family, I always let them get away with a lot more than I normally would with non-relatives.  This is probably what caused our most recent run-in with one another, the fact that I am a sucker for family and that she is determined to get at me in any way shape or form that she possibly could.  After the fact, I am still at a loss over whether I asked for it or whether she is just a truly disturbed individual.  You decide...     Let me go back, if I may to about six months ago when I received a friend … [Read more...]

Watch Your Mouth!

    This past week, I had to get involved in something that I simply could not hold my tongue about anymore.  You see, the teenage daughter of one of my family members posted something extremely inappropriate on Facebook and I just could not turn a blind eye to it.  Believe me, this was totally against my better judgment because this is not the first time that this has happened with this teenage cousin.  She and her siblings have posted vulgar and sexual things on Facebook in the past and getting involved in it did not turn out very well for me.     Herein lies the problem, their mother is an enabler.  She had children well into her mid to late thirties and now she complains that she doesn't have the energy to deal with their teenage shenanigans.  A contributing factor to all of this has been the decline of her health over the years.  Although she is not incapacitated in any way, she has been in treatment over the years for a menagerie of physical ailments and she blames her inability … [Read more...]

Reality Check

        This week I was watching The Real Housewives of New Jersey and I had an epiphany.  Now, don't judge me for being a reality TV fan because it is a great escape from the stresses of daily life and I am not going to be apologetic about it.  Everyone has some guilty pleasure that they engage in to wind down from work and life.  In any case, let me get back to some of the things that this show made me realize about family dynamics and relationships...     It's important that I give you a brief overview of what happened on the show in order for you to follow my train of thought.  A brother and sister who used to be close found themselves involved in a now strained relationship due to the fact that they each did not get along with the others' spouses.  Throughout the episode, one could see how the spouses influenced the reactions of the siblings by making innuendos and deliberately creating conflict.  Believe it or not, it was interesting to me to watch this situation from … [Read more...]

I Was Wrong…

  Earlier this year, I had a couple of run-ins with my son's teacher.  She is a veteran teacher who has been teaching in parochial schools for decades and I felt that she antiquated and was placing emphasis on areas of my son's academic development that I did not consider to be overly important, namely penmanship.  Since I am a teacher, I suppose some of it had to do with my own ego about being younger and more up to date on the latest teaching practices. I actually went back and forth with her a few times expressing my concerns over her teaching practices and her responses were somewhat dismissive which only further infuriated me.  Eventually, I even spoke to the Principal and generally made an ass of myself.  The reason I say this is that I have actually grown to respect and appreciate this teacher as the year has progressed.  This post is basically the written version of me "eating crow." My demise probably began during parent teacher conferences last Fall.  I sat in the … [Read more...]

I’ll Do It Later…

        I want to begin this post by saying that my husband is the best husband that any woman could possibly have.  He is extremely affectionate and humble and he is a wonderful father to both of our sons.  Our marriage is a true partnership and I can count on him to always be there to support me in any way possible.  It is very important that I highlight all of his good qualities because I am going to let the cat out of the bag about one thing, he is a slob!     Let me begin with one of my worst pet peeves, dirty dishes in the sink.  I cannot stand to have dirty dishes in the sink so I try to wash dishes immediately after they are used to eat.  Since Hubby works nights, when he comes home in the morning the dishes are all washed and the kitchen is clean.  Unfortunately, that is rarely ever the case when I arrive home from working in the afternoon.  It is pretty much guaranteed that I will find the dishes in the sink that he used during the day to heat up leftovers.  It is … [Read more...]

The Case of the Ex

        This topic has been fermenting in my mind for quite awhile.  I have debated whether or not I would post about it due to the fact that some of the people who will be discussed here subscribe to this blog.  Finally, I decided that I wasn't being true to myself and to the integrity of this blog if I did not provide my readers with the opportunity to chime in with their thoughts and feelings about the whole thing.  Your feedback is invaluable and perhaps it will help to change the minds of some of the parties involved.     Most of you who are loyal followers of this blog are aware that I was married once before.  I don't want to spend too much time talking about that in this post except to say that the marriage did not last very long and it did not produce any children.  In hindsight, not having had any kids turned out to be a blessing for me because it allowed me to make a clean break from this man and I have not had any reason at all to maintain contact with him over … [Read more...]

Revelations

        As I get older, I am becoming keenly aware of the people who are genuinely in my corner that I could depend on through thick and thin. Life can be ironic in that you assume that you can immediately identify the individuals that will be by your side through prosperity and adversity. Unfortunately, this is not always the case and you end up being extremely disappointed more times than not. At the same time, however, you are pleasantly surprised at others who astound you with their loyalty and their genuine hearts.      At times, I have wondered if being let down by those that I put all my stock in was my own doing. Perhaps I deluded myself about the nature of these interpersonal relationships and my support and loyalty was not reciprocated to an equal degree. I have realized, though, that I have not changed. I am still the same person that I have always been.  I will concede, however, that I am keenly aware of the realities of life as well as my own mortality. Aging and … [Read more...]

Nobody Wins…

        This past week, a woman who lived in the same area as I do went missing.  She was the mother of four and a productive member of society who worked as a nurse.  Her story was all over the airwaves and many people in the community were visibly shocked as I live in a fairly affluent neighborhood in one of the outer boroughs of New York City.  There was a lot of speculation surrounding her disappearance and it was stated on the news that her husband was being questioned as a suspect.     I hate to say this but, I immediately felt in my gut that he had killed her.  It was just too weird that a responsible mother of four beautiful children suddenly disappeared without a trace.  Over the years, I have grown accustomed to ultimately finding out that it was the spouse or the boyfriend that committed the heinous act.  Unfortunately, it usually turns out that this was indeed the case and the public learns that there was a long history of domestic violence prior to the murder.  … [Read more...]