I Just Might Like Being A Sister Wife!

    A while back, I wrote a blog post about polygamy and I had some pretty strong feelings about the whole phenomenon.  My biggest issue with it was the fact that, in the documentary that I watched, very young women seemed to be forced into situations that they had no control over.  Additionally, I was very upset by the subservient role that the wives seemed to play within the confines of the polygamist family.     This past week, I happened upon a show called Sister Wives on Netflix and I was immediately drawn to watching it.  The show revolves around a polygamist family with a husband that has four wives and sixteen children between the four women.  I wanted to see how these people lived in real life and not through the perspective of a generic documentary like the one that I had seen years before.     Now, before you start emailing all of your friends and telling them that Tough Cookie Mommy is converting and becoming a Sister Wife, I thought I should write a blog post outlining … [Read more...]

Plan A Romantic Date In! #HormelFamily

    Whenever I want to spend some romantic time alone with my husband, we make plans to go out somewhere and always include going to eat at a restaurant as part of the date.  Unfortunately, these moments are few and far between because of the busy lives that we lead as parents.  Since it's always so difficult to get some of that one-on-one time together, it's important to make the best of the time that we do get to spend as a couple.  One way to spend some very romantic time together is to prepare a meal at home and stay in.     By staying in, you eliminate some of the frustrating factors that keep married couples with kids from being able to have dates that often.  You won't have to worry about fitting going to a pricey restaurant into your meal budget because you can plan a delicious and creative meal with even limited finances.  Also, there isn't the added concern of finding a restaurant that is kid-friendly and can accommodate your children.  Let's face it, some of us just don't … [Read more...]

Liz Claiborne Is Helping Me “Dress To Impress” My Husband On Date Night! #ClaiborneClasico

    Lately, my husband and I have not had a lot of time to spend together.  Much of it has had to do with me returning to work as a teacher this month as well as the fact that he has taken on some extra hours at his job.  It just seems like we are always burning the candle at both ends and rarely have time to go out together without the kids.     As a result, we have decided to bring back our monthly "date night" where we dress up, leave the kids with their grandparents, and enjoy each other's company.  I've been with my husband thirteen years but I still get giddy and excited over planning my outfit and getting ready for our special night.  Next month, you guys will actually have some input as to what I wear and how I accessorize for my special night with Hubby.     I'm a very lucky gal and I have been given a gift certificate to shop at Liz Claiborne's New Shop at JCPenney!  This means that I will be able to purchase my date outfit from their new line which includes plus sizes for … [Read more...]

The Mother In Law Chronicles-Letting Go!

      Many of you who have been loyal readers of Tough Cookie Mommy know that I have always had a tumultuous relationship with my Mother In Law.  Although I feel that I have tried to connect with her over the years, she has always pushed me away due to what I feel are her extreme conservative religious views.     As time has passed, I have learned to accept that she is never going to like me or even respect me and I have resigned myself to the boundaries of our relationship.  What I have not been able to accept, however, is her continued absence from my sons' lives as their grandmother.  She has never worked to establish a relationship with either one of my sons and this has always been a sore spot for me.     Most recently, she failed to call my oldest son for this ninth birthday and it was really the straw that broke the camel's back.  You see, she never calls either one of my sons for any holiday.  As a matter of fact, the extent of her contact over the years with them has … [Read more...]

72 Days…

       I hate to give any additional attention to the topic of Kim Kardashian's divorce, however, I just couldn't help myself.  Besides being disgusted at all of the media attention that this whole issue is getting, I can't help but to be stuck on one point in this whole thing.  News reports indicate that comments have been made to the effect of that they tried to keep the marriage together for all of 72 days since the wedding.  As someone who has been married for 12 years next week, the first thought that comes to my mind is, "Are you freaking kidding me?"     Anyone who has ever been married can tell you that marriages are a lot of work.  Let me correct that, they are a hell of a lot of work.  I've often compared them to plants when discussing the whole issue with my friends and family.  You have to water, nurture, and care for a marriage much like you do for the plants in your home.  If you don't, they will just wither away and die.  Feelings will die, weeds will grow, soil … [Read more...]

I’ll Do It Later…

       I want to begin this post by saying that my husband is the best husband that any woman could possibly have.  He is extremely affectionate and humble and he is a wonderful father to both of our sons.  Our marriage is a true partnership and I can count on him to always be there to support me in any way possible.  It is very important that I highlight all of his good qualities because I am going to let the cat out of the bag about one thing, he is a slob!    Let me begin with one of my worst pet peeves, dirty dishes in the sink.  I cannot stand to have dirty dishes in the sink so I try to wash dishes immediately after they are used to eat.  Since Hubby works nights, when he comes home in the morning the dishes are all washed and the kitchen is clean.  Unfortunately, that is rarely ever the case when I arrive home from working in the afternoon.  It is pretty much guaranteed that I will find the dishes in the sink that he used during the day to heat up leftovers.  It is … [Read more...]

The Case of the Ex

       This topic has been fermenting in my mind for quite awhile.  I have debated whether or not I would post about it due to the fact that some of the people who will be discussed here subscribe to this blog.  Finally, I decided that I wasn't being true to myself and to the integrity of this blog if I did not provide my readers with the opportunity to chime in with their thoughts and feelings about the whole thing.  Your feedback is invaluable and perhaps it will help to change the minds of some of the parties involved.    Most of you who are loyal followers of this blog are aware that I was married once before.  I don't want to spend too much time talking about that in this post except to say that the marriage did not last very long and it did not produce any children.  In hindsight, not having had any kids turned out to be a blessing for me because it allowed me to make a clean break from this man and I have not had any reason at all to maintain contact with him over … [Read more...]

Breathing Space

       Today I realized that I have never had my own space.  It happened just when I was sitting down looking through some of my mail in the livingroom.  My husband had just walked into the room and I had just changed the channel on the television to a reality show that I often like to watch.  He immediately frowned but did not ask me to change the channel even though it was obvious that he did not want to watch what I had put on.  At that very moment I began to think about the fact that I have never had my own space to watch whatever I wanted to watch or to do whatever I wanted to do.    Growing up, I always shared a bedroom with my younger sister since we were both girls out of my parents' three children.  Even back then, I can recall always having to compromise about when we were going to turn the lights on or off or what we were going to watch on our television.  Sometimes we agreed and things went smoothly and other times we argued and only one of us ended up getting … [Read more...]

10 Tips To Help You Live Peacefully With A Man Who Loves Sports…A LOT!

        Today's Guest Blogger is Janis B. Meredith, author of the blog JBM Thinks. Janis was brought up in a sports family, married a man who has coached for 27 years, and has had three kids play sports from age 5 to college. She sees issues a bit differently, with a perspective of life from both sides of the bench--as a coach's wife and as an athlete's parent.    Once upon a time, a handsome young man named Rich met a beautiful young lady named Kathy in college. Their first date was to a baseball game.  Kathy soon learned that her date was an enthusiastic sports nut. She, however, was not. After being raised in a home where her dad watched a lot of sports, she went the opposite direction and grew apathetic, almost cold to sports.  But, she followed her heart and married Rich just over 2 years later.   "He will change", she assured herself...    More than 40 years later, Rich and Kathy are still happily married.  And no, his love for sports has not changed; he still … [Read more...]

Foul!

   Hubby playing Handball, a popular sport in New York City.     My husband is a sports addict. Those of you who are long time followers of my blog know that this is not the first time that I have mentioned this here. He doesn't like one sport, he loves all sports. No matter what season it is, you can always find him watching whatever sport is on television at the moment. He follows everything from football to tennis and drives me crazy while doing it. At any given time, you can enter my home and see ESPN turned on or any other sporting event.    His love of sports doesn't just end there.  He also plays all kinds of sports, attends sporting events, and coaches two of my son's sports teams.  Now, I want to begin by saying that I understand the value of sports for their physical fitness benefits along with the fact that participating in them boosts self esteem.  I'm just sick and tired of watching it and hearing about it all the time.  Now that my boys are getting older, I get … [Read more...]