As my sons are getting older, my husband and I are realizing the importance of making time for each other as a couple. Most of us have children and dedicate ourselves entirely to being their parents while forgetting that we should also focus on our relationships at the same time. After all, kids grow up and eventually make their own lives, as is the natural order of things. So it makes sense that couples make an effort to keep the spice in their marriage after having children.
This is not as easy as it sounds since parenting is a full-time job. Add to that balancing work, the household, and having some couple time becomes virtually impossible. The reality is that, even though we love our kids, it’s crucial that we have our own time to reconnect and interact romantically. This process has definitely been a learning experience and we have gotten really creative when it comes to keeping things steamy and spicy. Here are some of the things we have learned:
- You don’t have to spend a lot of money or even leave home to enjoy each other’s company. Watching a movie, enjoying a dessert, or even listening to some music together after the kids go to sleep can go a long way in setting the mood.
- Immediately after giving birth, postpartum vaginal dryness left me uncomfortable and my hormones left me feeling unbalanced emotionally. Using Lubrigyn Cleansing Lotion helped me to feel comfortable and soothed throughout the day since it is pH balanced. This went a long way in making me more receptive to spending intimate time with my husband after putting the baby down for the night.
- It’s okay to leave the kids with trusted family members and friends and just get away together, even if it is only for just a couple of hours. There is no reason to feel guilty about this and it allows for some much needed adult adventures.
- Communicating with your partner is a necessary component of fanning those romantic embers after having kids. Let him or her know what you need and when you need it.
- Be patient with one another. Raising children is no easy task, albeit rewarding. It does take time to adjust to balancing a relationship and being a parent but both roles are equally important and should always be considered.
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Whether we feel comfortable discussing this or not, making sure we feel sexy and comfortable in our bodies is key in keeping the spark alive in your bedrooms after having kids. It’s no wonder that Lubrigyn Cleansing Lotion is Italy’s #1 feminine care product. Made with Hyaluronic acid & elastin, it promotes an effective synergy against vaginal dryness. Restoring our personal confidence when it comes to intimacy is one of the best ways to keep the proverbial fire burning in your relationship after having kids!
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Let’s Discuss: What are some of the ways that you have kept your relationship spicy after having children?
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Kids, jobs even pets get in the way and we get tired. so true that we need to take time for our spouse.
This is helpful to know! I have no idea what’s to come when we think about expanding our family. Thanks for the helpful tips 🙂
Great post and trust me, it gets even better when the boys leave home!
Love this! Your marriage is definitely important and more so after you bring children into the world because you still need to be there for your spouse and provide love, attention and comfort. I have four boys with the youngest being seven weeks old right now and my husband and I try to do date nights at home to spend some quality time together until baby is old enough for us to want to go out for a date.
This is an interesting product for sure. We just had a baby so who knows we may need some spice!
As my kids are finally old enough so that we can get away for dinner or something for a couple hours, we are so much more focused on us and it is wonderful!
This is very good advice. Maintaining a healthy relationship with your spouse is equally as important as raising children. My children are all grow ups now, and even if we still both work, me and my hubby spend our weekends binge watching our favorite shows, having a few beers and sharing silly jokes. 🙂
Sadly this is the mistake that many couples make. The kids come along and they forget about each other.
Date nights are a must for hubby and I! Things definitely get hectic when you have kiddos, so time alone sans kids is a must once in awhile!
Chocolate and amazon prime is our date night! 🙂
Great tips. After kids, it is hard to take out time for real conversation.
Great tips, many couples forget that they, whilst caring for their children need to also care for their relationship with their spouse also. Especially with technology these days it is harder to take the time out to have a real face to face conversation.
Well, we are in a somewhat unique situation because we have shared custody of the kids with their dad and his wife, so hubby and I get a lot of alone time. We definitely take advantage of it 😉
After being married for nearly 40 years, we’ve learned a thing or two about having spice in a marriage. First and foremost it is important to have a loving and trusting relationship. After that, about anything will rock your world!
I completely agree raising kids isn’t easy and can sometimes take a toll on your marriage. I love to watch tv or movies at home with my hubby too.
I have not experienced this personally, but I know it can be really tough for moms to deal with this. It’s always important to make an effort to keep “the spice” no matter what the family dynamic looks like for sure!
The marriage relationship is so important! It is so valuable to have a life partner who always has your back. Unconditional love is such a valuable item to have in own’s life. It has to be a two-way street though and deserves to be worked on.
It’s definitely important to take time for your marriage, it can be really easy to forget about each other after you’ve had kids.
Paying attention to your relationship seems to be put on the back burner when you have kids. The day to day hustle and bustle, cooking, driving and errands make it almost impossible to pay proper attention to each other. Then it will stop the kids will be gone and then it will be just the two of us, it will be a little weird.
You and your hubby are so cute 🙂 My kids are grown, now. My husband and I always made sure to try to keep the spice in our relationships, though. We felt it was good for the kids to see us and how close we are. They haven’t rushed into marriage because they want a relationship like David and I have and feel it’s worth waiting for.
It can definitely be challenging to find the energy or time to spend with your spouse after a long day with the kids, but I agree it’s extremely important.
I have never heard of this product before! Having kids does take a lot out of your marriage and it’s so important to keep intimacy and this is just one way to do it! I’ll have to look into this! I like that it’s pH balanced 🙂
Great post. My sister said the same thing. Raising kids is never easy.
I think many couples get so consumed with their kids that they forget about their own relationship. You also need to make time for each other even that means date night at home after the kids have gone to bed.
I’m yet to have children, but definitely agree it’s important to make time for each other and keep the ‘spice’ in your marriage. Life can be busy and full on, but you need to make sure you appreciate each other.
Its so hard especially when you have young kids. My boys are 3 and 4 with number 3 due this week, honestly I am just so tired at the end of the day and my mind is always racing of the next thing I need to do.
Keeping your passion on your relationship with your partner when you already have kids is really challenging but with the right mindset and a lot of effort, it is achievable.