I’m pretty sure that I don’t have to tell you all that being a mom is not an easy job. Unfortunately, kids don’t come with instructions so there is a lot of winging it that is involved in raising kids. Most of us do the very best that we can and we often second-guess ourselves and wonder if we are even doing a good job after all. A few years ago, I even mixed up the dates for the first day of school since I was so swamped with work and I felt guilty for months afterwards.
That is why I can totally relate to FX’s new comedy series from Louis CK and Pamela Adlon, Better Things! It is all about those difficult moments that come with motherhood including those sleepless nights and those feelings like everything is always on your shoulders at all times. It’s so good to know that I’m not the only one who gets overwhelmed sometimes or that there really is no such thing as a perfect mother.
Sam Fox reminds me of myself and many of the other moms that I know. She is trying raise her three daughters in Los Angeles and juggle many roles including that of mom, dad, referee, police officer, doctor, etc. I actually give single moms like her so much more credit because it’s even harder to play the role of both parents to one’s children when the other one is not around.
You can check out this new comedy series on FX at 10 PM on Thursdays. Maybe this can be your own special slot to enjoy some time to yourself once a week. After all, being a mom is hard work and we all deserve a little “Me” time once in a while.
Let’s Discuss: Has there ever been a time when you wondered whether you were doing a good job as a parent?
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Absolutely! I often question if I’m making the right decisions and guiding them the best that I can.
LOL I can so relate to this! I am going to be checking this series out for sure!
It seems I’m always questioning myself about parenting. It has to be hardest job anyone can have.
As the mom of three boys, I wonder every single day if I’m doing everything right. I used to think things would get easier the older they get, but I still worry a lot. But, I know they are good kids and that together we will figure it out as life goes along.
I don’t know a parent that hasn’t wondered that. I’ve wondered often, sometimes it’s wondering if I’m too hard on them other times it’s wondering if I’m too easy on them.
When my daughter is sad and not wanting to talk, I always question if it’s because of something I did, or didn’t do.
Is FX something similar to Netflix? I could not access it because it is not available for my region. In any case, I agree with you that parenting is really a matter of winging it. I used to stress out as I felt that I didn’t have my act together – until I started teaching Sunday School and realized that my kids were actually lambs. I am not criticizing the other parents, but rather pointing out that we are all challenged by parenting in various areas.
I definitely give all the single parents out there all the kudo’s–they are doing a marvelous job–not perfect–but then–nobody is perfect! We do what we can do! This sounds like a really great show and one I may actually take the time to watch.
Of course, I think most parents are uncertain. You just have to trust your instincts and do the best you can every day.
I question whether or not I am doing a good job constantly! I try my hardest, but I think doubt is something everyone struggles with!
Yes, I wonder that question each and every day .
I believe every mother has a moment, especially in retrospect, whether they are being a good mother. We do the best we can!
I don’t have children, but this sounds like a terrific show to watch!
Oh yes almost everyday when I lay down I replay the day in my head and think wow maybe I should have or could have or should not have! It is horrible thinking did I.
Yes, many times. I always want to be a better parent. I entered your Entenmann’s giveaway.
My husband and I worry about that often, we want our son to grow up happy and healthy, so sometimes I helicopter and hug him to much. I’m working on giving him room to grow. It’s hard but rewarding 🙂
I’m not a parent of a human child, but I take care of a cat, which has some similar elements. I questioned my suitability when my cat’s hair become overgrown and matted – being a new cat owner, I hadn’t known I needed to brush her regularly! Now I brush her all of the time and she is doing wonderfully. So my advice, applying to both parents and animal owners, is to forgive yourself for mistakes as long as you learn from them and do better in the future.
Sometimes I looked at other moms and wished I could be more like them. That mom calmly talking her obstinate toddler down from a tantrum? Yeah, I was nothing like her. Or that mom who’s organizing school fundraisers, hosting epic birthday parties, and driving all over the planet for that sold-out Elsa costume? I was not like her either. I was a yelly mom, an insecure mom, and a serious mom. And even though I was also a loving mom, a devoted mom, and a mom who was trying her best, I couldn’t help but wonder whether my best was good enough.
Yes,whenever we have arguments I ask myself if I’m doing the right thing or if I’m a good parent. Always hoping I’ve made the right choice!
I always question myself, but then I remember I was blessed with kids for a reason. I am so glad I get the chance to be a mom. I am doing alright.
I really do…Than I have days where I am so proud, or they do something so amazing, that it makes it all worth it! I sure wouldn’t change a thing.
I question myself every moment of every day! I am always worrying about doing the right thing and making the correct decision. Parenting is the most difficult, but most rewarding thing I have ever done.
At least once a day. I think it’s normal to wonder if you are doing right by your kids when there are so many things they need to learn. I think that if you don’t question yourself, then you are someone who doesn’t really care.
I ask myself that question often. I’m sure most parents wonder if they are doing the right things with their children. being a parent is difficult.
I have had many times when I questioned myself about if I am doing a good job of parenting. There are so many situations that occur that I think it is normal to question whether we are handling the situations properly.
Every day since my first child was born I think I have wondered at least once in that day whether i was a good parent or not I think it is good to question keep you on your toes.
I wonder everyday if I’m teaching them everything they need to know. I wonder if I handle situations correctly and they learn from them. Do they understand the value of working hard?
I always wonder if I am doing a good job as a parent. I think I am but feel that I can do better.
I think every parent at one point wonders if they are doing a great job at parenting. I know we did when our boys were young. You can not control their choices, you can only control how you help them understand what the results of their actions are.
Not going to lie, this is a first hearing of this show, but after reading this I’m definitely going to be checking it out! Sounds like it’s going to be a goodie!
Sounds like a great new show! Yes I do believe all mothers at some point do feel overwhelmed. I am going to see if I can find this show here in Norway.
Literally all the time! I try my best, give it 100%, but I always wonder if I’m making the right decisions and doing it all alone, I have no one to talk it over with so it’s just all left to me. It can be pretty stressful sometimes.
Yes, It Seems Everyday I’m Worry If I’m Doing A Good Enough Job. This World Is So Crazy And I Worry That The Kids Will Make The Right Decisions As They Grow Up.
This sounds like a wonderful new show. I’ll have to add it to my DVR roundup. Thanks for the great giveaway too!
I have always been a loving mother. I put kids at the top of the list.
I think every parent wonders if they are doing a good job as a parent. You just do the best you can and hope it all works out 🙂
I think about how I am doing as a parent all of the time.
I do all the time! I am not as stern as my husband so I wonder if that is hurting my kids. I try to do all I can for them but at the same time let them learn and grow on their own. I hope that I am teaching my kids the right things and being a good example.
I question myself ALL THE TIME… which I don’t really need to do, because there are enough people already questioning me, or so it seems! I can’t wait for this show- I feel like I will totally relate!
I felt I was doing a bad job as a parent when my daughter starting acting out as a teenager. Everythng I suggested, she rebelled against. Now her son is doing the same thing to her so I wasn’t such a bad parent.
I have frequently wondered since my child is very busy and I want to make sure I shape her to be a great person.
As a non-parent, I have never wondered whether I was doing a good job as a parent. I am a good uncle.
Every day and then out of the blue they do something fantastic I never expected.
Of course, I just want whatever is best for her and I’m afraid that I do not always say the right things to her.
Yes, there were times when I really wondered if I was making the right decisions and doing what was right for my kids in the long run. They’re older now and making their (successful) way in the world, and in retrospect I believe what I taught them has carried them well.
I worry every single day of I am doing a good enough parenting job. UGH
I am down to my last child #3 she is a senior this year an yes I question myself all the time as to if I am a good parent or not. But I just take a step back an see how wonderful they are all doing in school & college.
Yes, I have questioned myself many a times if I am being a good parent. I have worried at times that I am being too hard or being too easy on our kids!
Often! But then I realized that I am not perfect, and my family is happy and productive.
I think I would lose my head if it was not attached to my shoulders. I’m struggling over here.
Taking care of a child physically is one thing but their emotional well being is a whole other stress. Personalities being so different require unique understanding and being sensitive too that. It’s a struggle and worry.
I always wonder if Iam a good parent.You only find out when they are grown and have their own family.
Will add this show to my watch list.
I’m not a parent but I would always be wondering if what I was doing was right or wrong. It’s probably a tough job
I wonder daily if I am a good parent or not. It is one thing you cannot help but think of as we all want what is best for our kids.
Oh yes..but the rewards, gratification are worth it.
I think it’s natural. And, yet I believe my mom struggled even more.
I frequently worry and have self doubts, but I think worrying is part of what makes you realize you actually are doing a good job.
Yes, I always ask myself about that because sometimes I feel that I am not a good mother of my son. Taking care an autistic kid is not easy for single mom, like me but I try the best every day to become a better mom 🙂
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I am really bad a parenting I can really relate to the struggles of this show and I will totally check it out.
I think parenting was the hardest job I ever had. I was always questioning whether I was doing the right thing or not.
There are many times where I’ve questioned if I’m being a good parent. When you are a single Mom working full-time and trying to do all you can to give your children everything you need. You second guess yourself many times, because you can’t always be with them (even though you want to be.)
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I think I’m always wondering whether I’m doing a good job at being a parent or not.
I raised three rowdy boys who were constantly arguing and fighting. I thought they would drive me crazy. Today they are all happy healthy adults with families of their own. And I miss those three rowdy boys like crazy.
I worried about being a good mom. You know you have success with your children when they do something kind for another. Being a decent human being to me is success.
Yes, when I lose my patience. I’ve tried really hard in the past year to keep my patience.
I question myself often. Am I being too tough, should I be more lenient? But the only thing I can do is do the best that I can.
I have often questioned the choices I made as a parent both when my kids were young and now grown.I used to say I wish babies were sent home from the hospital with a complete instruction book on raising them.
I think about it constantly. I just try to do my best and hope that I am doing a good job.
Of course you always wondering if you are doing a good job. You can only hope your child listens and learns.
I think every parent wonders that at least once a day!
At times yet but I think everyone has those moments.
I think every parent wonders if they are good enough. All we can do is try our very best to raise happy, healthy and loved kids.
I have wondered many times if I was being a good parent. I am a single mom of twin boy and while I have my mother’s help, there have been several times I wondered if I was good enough.
Yes I have had a moment or two where I wondered that.
Not yet a parent here. I believe that I would have these feelings, as I imagine most people do.
May first two kids I was very uncertain but with the second to I think I have the hang of it better.
Often! When we have to discipline them We wonder whether or not we should have. I think it is only natural for parents to worry.
I feel like I have been good at parenting.
There has been some times where I question is my being away working long hours, and if its worth it. But in the long run I feel like it is. My children enjoy the educational trips we are able to take each year as a reward to my hard work, and their compromise.
I sometimes wonder but so far everything has worked out well.
Yes, I often wonder if I am doing a good job as a parent. I have one son, so I have one chance to teach him to make the right decisions and to be a responsible adult! This is a fantastic giveaway! Thanks so much for the opportunity!
I think I have been doing a good job.
I am an Aunt, but I am not a parent yet. I hope to be a decent mom someday.
I question myself all the time and that’s okay, because if I am questioning myself, that means I am always looking to improve.
As soon as you figure out what the child’s gameplay is, someone changes the rules. (Roll with the punches.)
If there is such a thing as a perfect parent, I haven’t met them.
Yes there has been many times I wondered that because many times my kids were told things in life not to do they ended up doing anyway.
I always question myself i I am doing a good job. That I am not hounding my kids too much. I hope they realize that I am doing it all for them and their future.
I prepared for parenthood so I never really had an question that I was doing a good job and so far everything is going well.
I KNOW PRETTY MUCH EVERY PARENT FEELS THAT WAY BUT WE’RE ALL DOING A FANTASTIC JOB.
Pretty much all the time, but he’s alive and attending college. I’d say I did something at least partially right.
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Most definitely, I was a divorced mom with an absentee dad for ten years. Like Sam I was Mom, dad, referee and cop for those years and was always wondering if I was doing the right thing or what was best for my kids. It was a struggle but we made it through.
I am always questioning my abilities. Today it was raining and i was not sure if I should let my daughter drive. But ultimately I know that parenting is not a science and I have to go with my instincts.
Yes, I worry quiet often if I’m being a good parent, especially when they were teenagers.
I think everyone has those feelings sometimes. but we’re all just doing the best we can.
Yes, as a step-parent, I am constantly wondering if I should be more ‘mother-like’ or act in a certain way that is more ‘parent-like’, but I oftentimes I conclude that I may just be overthinking it.
Oh my goodness. Sometimes I feel that everyday. Thank you
Even now that my kids are grown, I sometimes wonder if I was a good enough mother. If I spent enough time with them, etc.
That is the wonder of the world. Am I a good parent? I hope so. I can only hope that I have taught my kids to be the best they can be and not question themselves.
I think most parents have doubts once in a while. I’m a working mom, so that comes with some guilt but I remind myself that I’m setting an example for my kids that women can have successful careers and families, too.
I often wonder if I’m a good parent. The older my children get, the more I worry.
Yes, I always worry if Iam doing a good job as a parent. The wourld is so big and the kids have so much outside influence around them. As a parent all I can hope is that my kids take what values I teach them and use them to be the best they can be.
I always worry if I am dong a good job! I try to balance my time to be there and spend time with kids!
I hope that i do as good as possible being an uncle. I cannot be a parent so I strive to do the next best thing.
My wife & I used to discuss this topic quite often, but our kids are all doing well in school, and are socially well adjusted…despite our best efforts…so we’re not sweating it at the moment.
I don’t think there is ever a day that I don’t worry about this and it seems that when you have more than one kids the worry just shifts from one to another and then back!
All the time! I think its very natural to question it and feel like you’re alone in this! Its hard not to be so hard on yourself and be present where you’re at in life.
No there hasn’t.
We have never really questioned whether or not we were raising our children right. Before marriage we talked about how it was important to give our children evertything they needed to develope into responsible adults. It is not easy. It is a struggle.
There have been numerous times I wondered if I was doing a good job as a parent, especially when I was dealing with a teenage girl. But two of my kids are grown and have moved out and are great adults. So I don’t think I did too bad with them.