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Many people often ask my husband and I what the key to our long and happy marriage is. You see, we have been married for fourteen years this November and we really do have a great marriage. I guess most are surprised that a marriage could last this long considering what the rate of divorce is in this country.
When I sit down to think about what makes our marriage so great there are many things that come to mind that make me smile about our relationship. First and foremost, it’s not a perfect one and that really is an important ingredient in this recipe for joy. Anyone who tells you they have the perfect union is not being totally honest. Accepting one another with all of our flaws is important and allows us to be honest with one another.
The next thing that has contributed to the longevity of our marriage is the fact that we have very open communication. My husband and I can talk about anything and everything and we often do. Real open communication means being able to talk about everything including the good, the bad, and the ugly. Knowing that there is nothing that we can’t talk about allows both of us to be open with one another about our thoughts and feelings. Believe me, this type of open communication sometimes involves loud voices or even profanity but that is okay too.
In the end, if I had to identify the one thing that is the key to of long and happy marriage, it would have to be that we genuinely like each other. Love is one thing and most people who are married or in committed relationships will tell you that they love one another. The question is, when times are hard or through the years, do you like each other as people? This is important because it’s imperative for you to actually like the person who will be your companion for what will hopefully be the rest of your life.
When seemingly ordinary acts have extraordinary effects, that is what Swiffer calls the “Swiffer Effect.” In my case, the simple act of liking and being friends with my husband has laid the foundation for our long and happy marriage just like Morty and Lee. As you can see from their video, the simple act of selflessly loving and supporting one another has produced over forty years of wedded bliss.
Let’s Discuss: What do you think is the key to having a long and happy marriage?
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I think the key to a long and happy marriage is understanding. Even when going through hard times, if you understand each other you can be there for each other.
I think that the key to a long and happy marriage is liking and respecting each other. We’ve been together since I was eighteen (met then and dated two years) and have been married for twenty four years now. 🙂
I believe that the key to happiness in marriage lies in the trust, love and cooperation.
A secret that my grandmother taught me about love is that when I made her mad, she was mad, but she loved me harder. For instance, when I knew that I messed up and was about to cry, instead of yelling at me, she would give me a big hug. Her unconditional love taught me to hug my husband when I am really mad sometimes.
I’m not married yet, but I think the key to a long, happy marriage is open and honest communication with a pinch of optimism. Also, dedication.
I truly believe it is honesty. There is no room for lies and betrayal. I also believe you have to respect one another.
I think being truly honest even when it’s hard. Also take a moment to breath when you’re angry. My hubby knows that If I don’t talk to him for a little while it’s actually a good thing. I don’t want to say hurtful things out of anger
One key is showing gratitude. Say ‘thank you” even for things that are expected–“Thank you for taking out the trash” “I appreciate the care you take with the yard”
We’ve been married for 36 years and I know the secret is sharing everything, including the good and the bad. And caring about each other as much as ourselves. You also have to give each other space and trust.
After 21 years of marriage and 3 kids, I have decided that there are two keys to a long, happy marriage is first off being totally honest no matter what and secondly…. HOLD HANDS. Holding hands is one of the first things you do when you fall in love and holding hands is something that easily disappears after you become comfortable in a relationship. Why? I don’t know but….. you should never stop holding hands. I made it a goal to just all of a sudden surprise my husband on odd occasions by just holding his hand. You can’t imagine the surprise and appreciation that I got for such a simple act. He loved it!
I think the key to a marriage is love and respect they have between the couple, but there is something very important that many people do not realize but a key is COMMUNICATION and that could last a lifetime together !
I think the key is communication. Talk and laugh often. Be each other’s best friend!
the key is trust, lots of love, honesty, communication,and listen to each other no mater what
La clave para un matrimonio duradero y feliz er mucho amor y comunicación .
I believe that communication is always key. I also think it is important to have unconditional love for one another. It is also important to try different things.
Communication is a big thing to have in a marriage. Trusts is also part of a happy marriage.
I love the couple in the Swifter commercial and think one day that may be hubby and I – we’ve been married 23 years. Congratulations on your 14th Anniversary and keep up the good work – love is love!
Humor is a big part of our marriage. We have always been able to laugh off the tough times.
Este tema puede ser muy amplio, pero pienso que no hay clave para ser feliz o tener un matrimonio duradero, ya que cada uno es distinto sobre todo el caracter. Mas bien yo pienso que en la relacion debe haber respeto, comunicacion, y tolerancia ante todo por ambas partes.
I think honesty,communication and trust are all important.You also need to learn to take time to spend with each other and have fun.Congrats on your 14th!
For sure, patience and love is important. Being a good listener helps, and always being faithful.
Honesty, trust and maintaining happiness and closeness is a big key.
I think a happy marriage happens when both are intent on compromise and enjoying each other as friends.
Communication, honest, trust, and splitting the workload.
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I agree that open communication is key. You have to work at that though, and remember that you don’t always need to openly communicate about something especially if it will hurt the other person’s feelings. I would say, picking your battles applies in that type of situation. 🙂
Open Communication is a TOTAL MUST!!!! Great tips and what a fun Giveaway….
love this ad its so cute! I think being honest with each other, good communication and having trust is very important.
A lot of trust and compassion! It is a lot of work, so communication is so important!
uy creo q no hay ninguna clave . ni posima magica para un matrimonio duradero , es cuentios de confanza ,amor y dedicacion
I believe that a long and happy relationship must be built on the foundation of Jesus Christ and the word of God. When you both love and listen to the Lord that leaves a lot less to argue about and a lot more to grow in.
trust and happiness
Principalmente la communication en una relation y respeto
I think that communication is a must. I also believe what my mother told me: never go to bed angry. I think that is the secret!
la clave. es confianza y respeto
i think that the key to a long lasting and healthy marriage is for the man to learn this phrase, ” Happy Wife Happy Life.” We both get along better knowing that although he brings home the bread and butter, someone has to put it away and cook it otherwise it will go bad.
I believe that to have a committed marriage both must also be committed to Jesus Christ and His ways. To have a happy marriage I do agree that communication is so crucial. I would add that believing that what your spouse says is what he thinks is important. I have had to learn that if he says he is happy, he is. No need to analyze so much. 🙂
I think shared faith in Christ, honesty, a sense of humor and a lot of understanding makes for a long, committed marriage. Both partners must feel they can share their thoughts and feelings without condemnation and fear.