Yesterday afternoon I attended my Sister In Law’s baby shower. It was a much anticipated event as I had pretty much planned the entire event with the assistance of her mother. All in all, everyone had a great time and I really enjoyed myself. However, today, I found myself to be exhausted and achy the whole day from yesterday’s festivities.
I remember a time when I used to work a 40 plus hour week and party all weekend like nobody’s business. Getting sleep was not something that was a priority and my energy levels seemed like they had a never ending supply. These days, that kind of partying stamina is something completely foreign to me. I’m not sure if this is something that is only happening to me or if other working women or mothers are experiencing the same thing…
It just seems like there is never enough time to get everything done and, after some things are done, there is never enough energy to do anything else. There is housework, and work, and children, and husband, and all the other daily things that require my attention. Having fun and partying, or even having the energy to do so, is way down on my list of priorities.
There are women who seem to tackle all of these things and still have time for partying, having a good time, and actually having a social life. I’m not sure if they are just an illusion or if they receive assistance from family members or hired help that they just refuse to admit to others. Perhaps they are really superheroes disguised as working mothers to make the rest of us look bad. Better still, maybe they are aliens with the power to get everything accomplished using ESP or something. In any case, they couldn’t seem anymore unreal to me.
The reality is that, as women and mothers, we tend to put the needs of others before our own. Whatever energy we do have left after working all week is dedicated to our children, making sure our husbands or significant others are happy, helping out family members and friends, etc. Not much thought is given to having some “me” time or simply having a night out with the girls. That is why we thoroughly enjoy any social event and it is also why we are exhausted after any social event. At least that is my take on the whole thing.
In the meantime, I will definitely be making sure that I have at least one day to recuperate after attending any social event. That might seem funny to you guys but I can definitely tell you that this mommy of two boys, ages 3 and 6, and wife, and teacher to 60 students daily is tired as hell most days and cannot party like she used to. There I said it, who else is with me?
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No doubt with what you said throughout this post. I believe being a mother alone is a tough job (comes with overtime without you even wanting it). And I'm a guy (soon to be dad)!