Stay At Home Moms vs. Working Moms

As I begin to write this blog entry, I can’t help but feel like there is something else that I am supposed to be doing. Those of you with a witty sense of humor would say I should be in bed sleeping. However, the women who are reading my blog know that there is never enough time in the day to get everything accomplished. I actually enjoy staying up extremely late because I enjoy the quiet and the solitude while my children are sleeping. Unfortunately, I go back to work in a little over a week so these wee hour blogging sessions will have to be rescheduled to another time of the day.
It never seems like my house is clean enough, that my cooking is good enough, or that I am a good enough housewife. Don’t get me wrong, this has nothing to do with my husband. He loves me in all of my career woman glory and never criticizes my housekeeping, cooking, or general “wifely” duties. I guess I am just hard on myself. It doesn’t help that stay at home Moms seem to have the whole housewife routine down to a science. Believe me, I respect stay at home Moms and I can appreciate how hard their job is. On the other hand, I don’t always feel that stay at home Moms always respect the challenges and the choices that career women are faced with.
I cannot even begin to tell you the guilt that I have felt at not having time to volunteer at my son’s school and be more involved in school activities. It always seems like the stay at home Moms are there every single day baking cookies, sucking up to the teacher, and generally making the working Moms feel like crap. They also give you these looks when you do go to the school like, “who is that?”
Well, my response to that question is that, I am the person who works instead of staying home because having a second income allows our children to have the kind of life we never did. I am the person who spends weekdays away from my own children teaching your children so you could go to work and support them. I am the person who was always encouraged by my Mother to never depend on a man and to get my education and have my own money. I am the the person who would do anything for my children, including sacrificing time away from them so they could have everything. I am the person who spends every waking moment with my children, when I am not at work, and puts their own needs before my own. Lastly, I am the person who did not judge you for deciding to stay at home and expects the same respect for deciding to go to work.

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