This evening, I was having a conversation with my dear friend and fellow blogger Alexandra Elizabeth. She shared with me how she experiences a daily struggle to find just the right balance between being a professional working mom and spending enough time with her daughter. It was an all too familiar discussion for me because, as an educator, I also worry constantly whether I am doing a good job juggling my many roles including being a career woman and mother.
Take this past week, for example, there were many events that took place that reminded me just how thin I spread myself on a daily basis. I believe it was Wednesday when I emailed my son’s teacher back and forth to discuss that he hasn’t been handing in his assignments to her in a timely manner. Now, of course I supervise both of my sons’ homework completion every evening.
However, since I work full-time, I have to admit that there are some evenings when I’m just exhausted and I skim over the assignments just to make sure they are done. Obviously, if I wasn’t working, I would be able to pour over every page with a fine toothed comb and catch any organization problems before they became a real issue. So there comes that “Mom guilt” creeping in when I second guess whether I’m doing a good job as a mom.
It’s really illogical for me to even feel this way because I try very hard to be Super Mom. I take my boys to all kinds of events, spend every waking moment of my free time with them, and chauffer them around all weekend to all of their sports events. At the end of the day, though, there just never seems to be enough time in the day for working moms to get everything done. Not to mention that little nagging voice in the back of my mind that reminds me of how precious every second of my sons’ lives are and how quickly they are going to grow up.
So what do us working moms do to make up for that guilt that we feel about working away from the home and away from our children? We overcompensate by indulging our children, pushing ourselves to the limit, and never making time for ourselves, using our lunch breaks to call and email teachers, and generally constantly dealing with a full plate.
But our hearts are in the right place and we are driven to sacrifice by our intentions to provide our children with the best and most magical childhood that they could possibly imagine. We do it so they can attend the best schools, engage in their heart’s content of extracurricular activities, and learn the value of working hard and having a good work ethic. We really don’t have anything to feel guilty about except perhaps loving our children too much…
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