Over the years, those of you who have been following this blog know, that I have discussed my displeasure at the way that some family members were raising their children with regards to monitoring their online and social media activity. More than once, I observed teenage family members discussing and posting provocative or inappropriate topics on social media that prompted me to discuss the issue with their parent.
Unfortunately, all of my concerns and warnings always fell on deaf ears. As a matter of fact, it almost seemed like there was resentment over the fact that I had the nerve to get involved in something that they deemed to be none of my business. I’m not even sure how that works because I have always believed in the “it takes a village to raise a child” mentality.
There is no way that I could turn a blind eye to dangerous behavior that young people are engaging in, especially if those young people are related to me. Sadly, nobody ever heeded my warnings and now the unspeakable has happened. One of the young people in our family, whom I have always been extremely worried about and said as much, has attempted to take her own life. As an educator, I can’t say that I am surprised that this has happened.
You see, I have been teaching and working with teenagers for almost thirteen years and I know all too well what the signs are of an adolescent who is in crisis. When teenagers act out rebelliously, engage in promiscuity, and generally behave poorly, it is usually a cry for help. After all, logically, why would anyone willingly choose to do these things and simply self-destruct?
After the fact, I feel very bitter towards the parent who refused to listen to me when I told her that her child needed more supervision. I also feel bitter towards a society that teaches our young people no morals and celebrates their failures by enabling them to continue failing. This same society is robbing children of their youth and making them grow up way too fast. It is certainly a tangled web that we are weaving as keepers of the young people who will one day become the future of this planet.
Don’t be one of those parents who hovers over your young children and then doesn’t worry enough once they become teenagers. Believe me, they probably need you more during their teen years than they did when they were little kids. Don’t be like my family member who is right now sitting in the hospital with her teenage child who doesn’t want to live anymore and is wondering why she didn’t listen…
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